Cougars, cougars everywhere! Tina Turner, a Cougar herself, once asked, “What’s love got to do with it?” These days the question is not so much about love, as it is about age. A lot of people are asking. ‘What’s age got to do with love?’ Like Tina Turner and her husband, many couples are involved in what are called ‘age-gap relationships’. And they don’t care about what people say about their relationship or what others think or feel about them having a partner who is five or more years younger than they are. When cupid shoots his arrow, where it will stop, no one knows. All that matters is that love has been found, no matter what age.
Age is nothing but a number! The younger you feel, the younger you think and act. If you are young at heart, why in the world would you want to deal with someone who doesn’t share your youthfulness? Who wants to be with someone who can’t keep up with them? Intimacy remains at any age, as long as it’s over the age of consent. And intimacy doesn’t and shouldn’t start with the bed; it should start with the head. N matter what age, sensible, mindful, mature, and coherent conversations should start any relationship. Age does make a major difference in maturity and mindfulness. There is only one time around. You might as well have fun as long as you can, especially when dating. And who says two people who are years apart in age can’t fall in love?
I believe too many people allow age to determine friendships, love, fun and intimacy. As long as you can keep up with your partner in love, fun and all forms of intimacy (social, intellectual, sexual, and spiritual), there is nothing wrong with going for it. If you are older than your partner, don’t try to be the parent. Hopefully, your partner is looking for experience and not a parent. Parent your children and not your partner. And if you are younger than your partner, your partner is not your parent. Looking for a parent? Stay home with your own parents and date someone your age. Your age-gap relationship should be an ageless love!
It does takes two to tango! Are you willing to hang out after hours with your younger partner and compromise on weekend activities, giving up going to bed with the chickens? Old fuddy duddies are out! It’s about love, fun, fantasy, excitement, and all of the wonderful things that come with being in an ageless relationship. Now, it doesn’t mean that as a man you have to sag your pants to hang with her and as a woman, it doesn’t mean that you have to wear a mini dress to hang with him! It’s all about putting age aside, loving yourself, loving the life you live and loving the person you are with. It’s mind over matter; if you mind loving each other, age won’t matter!
And women, so what if they call you a ‘cougar’ for dating your younger guy! If you are that bold, brash, stimulating, mature, sexual, and sensual, go for it! As long as the two of you are in love with each other and not your ages, it’s okay.
What about your friends and family? They will talk about you today, but tomorrow, they will return to their own problems and your relationship won’t matter. To tell the truth, some of them wish they had your nerve! And if the relationship doesn’t work, it won’t be any different than other relationships that fail each and every day. If it fits, go for it! What the heck! You are both grown and hopefully on your own; free, single, and disengaged! Age IS nothing but a number, especially when it comes to love!
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