You probably wonder how in the world do some people walk around each and everyday of their lives with anger, pain, and malice toward others. Each day is filled with one big frown and they spend their time trying to ‘do someone in’ or ‘get back at someone,’ often without provocation or cause. These people are often very angry, lack forgiveness, and they live in misery on a daily basis. In all actuality, this has to be a miserable existence, but they don’t even recognize it; this is their norm and their reality!
If you are getting up on a daily basis, worried about what someone has done to you or said to you, while spending your days spewing words and actions of hatred because you can’t get past the hurt, and you can’t turn the page in your life book in order to move forward, you are not really living. Yes, you are getting up each and everyday, but just because you are breathing, it doesn’t mean that you are alive. The second syllabus of the word alive is live. To live doesn’t mean that you just exist; it means that you have life, you engage in lively things, and you love, and live. However, your hurt, your pain, your anger, your malice, and your hatred can’t and won’t allow you to live, and they most certainly won’t allow you to love!
It is hard for you or anyone else to live and love when you have a dark and heavy heart, full of hate and hurts from life’s hills and valleys. If you don’t experience hurts, you won’t be able to experience happiness. As long as you carry hurt, you won’t be able to accept genuine hugs full of love. In all honestly, those people you have allowed to beat you down, drag you about, stump on your heart, and render you hopelessly hurt and angry, will continue to pull you down and hold you down, figuratively and literally. How do they accomplish this? They do it by living inside your heart and your head. They will squeeze the life and the love out of your heart, while playing tricks with your mind, but only if you allow them.
You should be sick and tired of being sick and tired of allowing people to take up space in your head and your heart, and they are not paying rent. Further, your heart is too small to carry anyone in it. Your heart is a part of your lifeline. Each beat of your heart is a beat of and for life, rendering you whole, happy, and free. Carrying people in your heart based on your unwillingness to forgive renders you helpless and hopeless, deferring and sometimes destroying your dreams. However, today is the day that you will decide to serve an eviction notice on the pain, the hurt, the anger, the malice, and the people who have been living rent-free in your head and in your heart!
The good thing about life is recognizing that you have choices in your life. You have a choice as to whom you invite and whom you allow in your life, along with the thoughts you carry in your head, as well as the feelings you hold in your heart. When you come to recognize that you have had choices and you have had power over your life throughout your life, you will then come to see you and your life through a different pair of lenses. You will begin to embark upon ladders of forgiveness, roads showing different directions, as well as different life options that you were either too blind to behold or because you couldn’t behold them, due to the negativity you held within your mind and within your heart.
You have your entire life ahead of you. The only way that you can fulfill your life’s purpose is for you to clean out and clean up you mind and your heart. You must develop a new attitude of hope, positive beliefs, and high expectations. You must clear all of the mess out of your head and your heart, in order for you to begin to see the light at the end of the tunnel of darkness, which you have been stumbling in and through for the majority of your life. You can dream again and you can live again. And if you have never truly lived, due to the blockages in your mind and your heart, it is time for you to do so. And yes, YOU CAN! And if you can’t free yourself completely, seek help from a mental health professional.
In the meantime, there’re some things that you can do to help you to free your own mind and your own heart. The first thing you must do in order to free your mind and your heart of the hurt, the pain, and the people you have been carrying rent free for far too long, is to admit that what you have been carrying and still are carrying are liabilities and not assets. List them on a blank sheet of paper. Admit that they have been and still are hindrances and not helpful. Admit that they have been and still are blockages and stumbling blocks, instead of building blocks and steppingstones. And finally admit that all of the negative stuff and negative people that you have written on the paper are things and people that you have been and still are carrying. They have been a part of a destructive process, instead of a constructive process.
Once you have identified and documented the hurt, the pain, and the negative people on a blank sheet of paper, orally speak forgiveness over the people on the list and forgiveness over yourself for the role you played in allowing these rent-free atrocities to enter your mind and your heart. Speak out loud that you are ‘LETTING GO’ of the hurt, the pain, the people, the mess, and the stress that have negatively occupied your mind and your heart. Orally and without shame declare your freedom, recognizing that your mind and your heart are too small to keep carrying the negativity; you are finally moving forward, you are moving on!
Finally, take your pen and draw a huge ‘X’ across the list of hurt, pain, and negative people who have contributed to your life’s mess and stress. As a matter of fact, to ensure that you have not only given notice to the eviction, but have actually carried out the eviction of these negative elements that have been taking up space in your mind and your heart, you can draw several X’s across your list. Take the list and with both hands you can tear it into small piece or you can shred it in a shredder. The intent is to not only remove the negativity from your mind and your heart, it is to also shred it from your life. You will then take the torn or shredded remnants of your list and place them in a plastic bag, removing them from your sight and from your home, by placing them in a trashcan outside of your home.
It’s all a matter of letting go and letting God. He can deal with those who have and continue to offend you, hurt and harm you. He can also rid your mind and your heart of the negative hurt and pain of your past. You have to want to be free and want to lift those burdens from within you. Until your mind and heart are free, you are not free. Your forgiveness of yourself, along with your forgiveness of others sets you free, free to be you and to live free. Take the opportunity to once again experience freedom in your mind and your heart or to experience freedom for the first time in your life, recognizing that, ‘Your Heart is Too Small to Carry Anyone In It!’
You are now free at last, free at last, thank God, you are finally free at last! Thank God for your newfound freedom. You are free to love again, free to live again, and free to dream again. Now go out and celebrate the freedom of your mind and your heart, deciding that from now on, you will only allow positive, asset-filled, and constructive people, and PPPGs (Positive People Going Places) in your heart. YES YOU CAN!
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