Saturday, July 4, 2020

Movements Must Mean Action, Change & Accountability…Not Moments in Time

Over the past few months the world has been on the move with marches and protests sparking “Black Lives matter” movements in almost every state in America, as well as other countries around the world, including, Germany, France, Scotland, Canada, South Korea, Australia, England, Spain, and other countries. It is sad that George Floyd had to lose his life under the knees and weights of police officers in Minneapolis, Minnesota, in order for the world to finally engage in a movement demanding that the world recognize that “Black Lives Matter.”

Movements cannot just exist for a moment in time. Movements have to be built on moves of action, with the expectancy of change, and accountability. Movements also have to have a purpose. That purpose cannot be sidelined or sidetracked by and for the benefit of those who are not supportive of the cause and the purpose. It’s amazing that although George Floyd physically did not leave Minneapolis, his spirit traveled around the world with a purpose and a cause in mind to bring attention to the hatred and racism that have existed in America for over four hundred years. His death was the catalyst to uncover the cover-ups about race in America, especially with police officers. However, we must remember that police officers are only a microcosm of the macrocosm of America. As a result, the recent movements, as were the movements of the past, weren’t just actions of marches and protests, there have been and are actions of demands for change.

George Floyd moved from the projects to his princely status in death, but he was able to cause a movement of massive proportion in the lives of others. The movement not only brought attention to the racists deaths of George Floyd, but also to those of Ahmaud Arbery, David Smith, Tyrone West, Sean Bell, Freddie Gray, Trayvon Martin, Sandra Bland, Tamir Rice, Michael Brown, Philando Castile, Eric Garner, Amadou Dialo, Jordan Davis, Markeis McGlockton, Walter Scott, Manuel Ellis, Emmett Till, and on and on. Sadly, this list is not exhaustive of the lives stolen from so many Black men and women at the hands and guns of racist Whites over decades. But no matter what, the purpose is clear. It is also imperative that as a part of the movement, we don’t allow those individuals, those corporations, and those institutions to not be accountable for the role(s) they have played in proliferating systemic racism and hatred in America. We cannot allow them to hide behind the marches and their statements, without taking and making action of change.

It is one thing to tear down monuments, change the name of a brand of syrup, rice, a NFL football team, and for organizations and corporations to make commercials, verbal and written statements about their position on “Black Lives Matter.” However, it’s another thing for them to be accountable, take action and put their money where their mouths are by making drastic and dramatic changes in their treatment of Blacks through acts of reversing and removing their unjust policies, unjust laws, their unfair and unjust hiring and promotional practices that negatively impact, suppress and oppress Blacks and people of color. Although the NFL Commissioner, Roger Goodell finally admitted he was wrong about Colin Kaepernick taking a knee against the killing of Blacks in America during football games a few years ago, he has yet to apologize directly to Colin and give him his quarterback job back.

You see, racism is not something that can change over night; it would have to be a process and not an event. It has to be an aspect of the movements and not something that is espoused for the moment while things are hot. Many Whites who have practiced racism, might honestly want to change their racist feelings, racist beliefs, and racist behaviors. However, they might find the necessary emotional and cognitive restructuring quite difficult and challenging. 

Racism is of the heart, the mind, and the spirit, exemplified in negative, abusive, and inferior actions and behaviors. It encompasses feelings of hatred and fear, thoughts of privilege, superiority, inferiority, supremacy, as well as actions of inferior treatment, discrimination, bigotry, control, inequality, legal and social injustices, economic depravation, abject poverty, isolation, bias, prejudice, social separation, cultural and racial separation, oppression, racial profiling, victimization, subhuman treatment, emotional and physical harm and abuse, neglect, inferior education, and the ultimate physical deaths of Blacks, Browns, and American Indians. Until racists are willing to at least become aware of their feelings, thoughts/beliefs, behaviors and actions toward others based on their race, they won’t be able to take a honest and open look at how they see and treat others based on their race. I don’t believe in unconscious bias; the racist individual is very much conscious and conscience when he/she expresses his/her feelings, thoughts, beliefs, and actions toward Black, Brown, and American Indian people. When dealing with racism as with any other ism or behavior needing change, it is my profound belief that people don’t change; they grow!

People grow through having an awareness, insight, and understanding of their feelings, beliefs, attitudes, and behaviors, along with the effects and impacts they have on others. The awareness, insight, and understanding then allows them to change their feelings, their beliefs, their attitudes, and their behaviors, The murder of George Floyd and the hundreds of other African-Americans murdered in America have basically uncovered the cover-ups that comes with racism. Systemic racism has permeated the very fiber of America every since Whites entered America, starting with American Indians, whose land was stolen, and then moving into slavery of African-Americans. Until Whites come to grips with and become accountable for their feelings of hatred and fear, learning to first accept their racist thoughts, beliefs, feelings, attitudes, and behaviors, allowing them to start accepting differences while learning to love and respect those who are different from themselves, they will have difficulty gaining the insight and understanding that will allow them to change their minds, their spirits, and their behaviors. They will have to learn that the world does not only belong to them, it belongs to all inhabitants. Therefore, Black and Brown lives DO matter and they also deserve an equal share of the American pie!

I’ve heard the rhetoric and the promises to Blacks, throughout my life, throughout the lives of my parents, my grandparents, and throughout the history of Blacks in America, but they have gone nowhere. It took the Montgomery bus boycott from December 1, 1955 through December 20, 1956, 381 days before the movement with the marches and protests saw change in the seating of Blacks on city buses in Montgomery. Blacks and their supporters of other races have been marching and protesting in civil rights movements to ensure the equal rights for African-Americans for over sixty years, with the march on Washington taking place August 1963. Not only did these movements have purpose, there was visible and pervasive action and change. As a result of the Montgomery bus boycott, the Supreme Court ruled that Montgomery, Alabama had to stop its racist practices of segregating and discriminating against Blacks on their city buses. The Civil Rights Movement, which included marches and protests, brought about school integration and the Voting Rights Amendment, which still has not become permanent, but action has been shown. It’s evident that the movement must continue with action, change, and accountability!

Without a movement of action and accountability, change will never occur. One of the greatest movements of action and change that has to take place and very soon, is the removal of DT from the white house. He has brought about divisiveness, hatred, xenophobia, continued racism, sexism, and other deadly acts against Black people and people of color. His recent rallies in Tulsa, Oklahoma and at Mount Rushmore in South Dakota were all as Maya Angelou once said, was like ‘spitting on the graves of our ancestors.’ He disrespected the anniversary of Juneteenth and ignored the massacres that took place on Black Wall Street in1921 in Tulsa, where hundreds of blacks were murdered. He disrespected the American Indians in South Dakota as he held his rally on sacred grounds at Mount Rushmore, honoring those who stole American land from the American Indians. This movement can’t be for a moment; it must be one with action, change, and accountability for as long as it takes for positive and lasting change to take place. This movement of removal of DT must take live action at the voting polls and through the mail. This movement must include blocking voter suppression, which is DT’s plan to once again steal the presidency.

It is imperative that all movements for the rights of Black and Brown people, including American Indians are not movements for a moment or for the moment, but that they will continue until justice is real and visible change takes place in the school houses, the corporations, the white house, the congressional house, the senatorial house, the nonprofit houses, and any house that has people working in them.  The actions of these movements demand that this country atones for its racist behaviors and is accountable by admitting its wrong in the treatment, mistreatment, and maltreatment of Black and Brown people, especially African-Americans and American Indians. America has to also become accountable by allowing racial healing for African-Americans and American Indians, by authorizing reparations for BOTH groups. This movement demands action for laws to be enacted to protect Black and Brown lives, without loopholes and cover-ups, not only from police officers and others, but from the racist and unequal laws that continue to discriminate, alienate, and prohibit true American freedom.

The movements with action cannot stop until equality is the norm and not the exception. It must continue until Black and Brown lives TRULY matter, not just with words and posters, but also with positive action and positive change! Keep the movements going with action and accountability until REAL change occurs and we are all truly free and recognized and treated as American citizens, with rights, liberty, property, and the pursuit of happiness! 

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Saturday, June 6, 2020

The Challenges of Being Black in America: The Truth was Never Covered

As a young child, I can remember my mother saying, ‘being Black and being old in America are two of the most difficult things in life; neither is treated as if they matter.’ Here we are, more than fifty years later and being Black and old in America are still seen as the two worst groups to belong. Through it all, Blacks have had to climb mountains intentionally set before them, dodge fires, and swim oceans and avoid the quick sands of life that were set to hinder their growth and progress. The levels of discrimination from the middle passage of over four hundred years ago are still prevalent in present day America. When I consider the challenges faced by Blacks in America, it’s amazing that our overt suffering from PTSD is not more prevalent. It’s also amazing that the majority of Blacks aren’t sitting on the Golden Gate Bridge or Brooklyn Bridge, ready to jump, when they are unable to swim.

Starting with the middle passage, continuing onto the plantation, during the Civil Rights Movement, and into our present day society, it has always been the belief by the majority, considered superior, that those they deemed minority/inferior needed to be policed. The racist system that consisted of the ‘massah’ and the ‘overseers,’ indicated that Blacks needed to be policed and controlled.Blacks have come to realize that police officers are a microcosm of the macrocosm of a country built on violence and hatred, which not too many want to admit or talk about. We have also come to recognize that laws in America are made to keep some people down and out, such as Black and Brown people. We have also come to recognize that there will never be laws made by the majority society that don’t include loopholes for them to not have to adhere.

Being Black in America has been a challenge all of my life and I have had to fight all of my life. Sadly, the fight continues. However, because of time and space, I am unable to document all of the challenges. However, I can say, I wouldn’t trade being Black for anything. To Deny or trade my Blackness would be denying and trading my identity, rendering me nonexistent. There are times that I have asked God ‘why.’ I am aware that God makes no mistake, but I thought by now, the hatred, racism, discrimination, disrespect, the state of invisibleness that has been and still is imposed on Blacks in America would have at least dissipated. And the lie told to me and my Black sisters and brothers about the power of an education has also not held true. My education and ability to articulate myself have made me a target to be silenced and there are attempts to erase me as a person. It has been stated that whatever White America doesn’t understand, instead of getting to know and understand, they seek to destroy and kill. And it seems as if instead of embracing differences, America does everything to destroy those who are different, especially the Black, Brown, poor, disenfranchised, and the have nots.

The white privilege attitude, white privilege behaviors, and realities of white privilege within America has brought about many caste systems, such as the haves and have nots, FICO scores for credit, discrimination, inferior education, inferior treatment, poverty, economic disparity, etc. Although I have not been faced with the atrocity of having to live in dilapidated and inferior housing, white flight has turned my community into a dilapidated area of boarded up buildings, fat food restaurants, gas stations and liquor stores on each corner, dollar stores threaded through out the neighborhood, and car part shops and used car lots scattered throughout the main streets. 

One of the greatest challenges of being Black in America is having to not only defend myself in a white society, but to also have to defend myself in my Black society. Because of the self-hatred taught to my people to bring divisiveness among the slaves on the plantation and maintain physical, psychological, and emotional control, unfortunately, the vestiges of slavery still exist. The in-race hatred on many occasions is much more challenging than the hatred from White America. Many of my Black sisters and brothers look at each other and see themselves, hating what they see, they begin to lash out at each other, believing that the battle is between Blacks as a people instead of Blacks and the larger system. It’s a syndrome that has been labeled as ‘the crab in the barrel mentality’ and has caused us to constantly treat each other the way White America has treated us. It is truly a challenge and has been detrimental to the Black race as a whole! 

As a Black person in America, too many of us have had to harness our feelings of pain, associated with disrespect, rejection, dejection, discrimination, and racism. Our feelings have not mattered. Ironically, even when we visit our doctors with physical pain, it is diminished and too often dismissed. We have not been trusted and workplace discrimination and racism are often seen as problems of the Black worker, rather than those of the racist society in which we live and work. As a Black in America, we have long been faced with the fact that we don’t matter. As a result, it has been shown that Black lives have not and still don’t matter.

I have been very disturbed by the recent events that have taken place in America, but I’m not surprised. A lifetime of hearing, seeing, and experiencing racism has become even more draining and is traumatic for the Black and Brown people who experience racism on a daily basis. However, the recent acts of racism violence, and murders that took the lives of George Floyd, Breonna Taylor, Ahmaud Arbery, and Manuel Ellis are nothing new. I have lived with it all my life! The media constantly states that the COVID-19 coronavirus has uncovered the negative state of African-Americans in America, especially in relation to police brutality/murders, poverty, economics, healthcare, etc. However, because Blacks have lived with these atrocities throughout their lives, none of these adversities were/are covered. The reality is that there are those who didn’t/don’t want to see the truth of the reality of the inferior and racist conditions and discriminatory treatment that Blacks have faced and continue to face in America on a daily basis. These conditions and treatment have existed for over four hundred years. The COVID-19 pandemic didn’t uncover the aforementioned issues cast on Black Americans, the haves chose to wear blinders, turned their heads and their backs, while covering their ears and their eyes. What the COVID-19 coronavirus pandemic has uncovered are the American cover-ups regarding the truth of its racist past and racist present.

For over four hundred years African-Americans have had to pretend that they did not know, that everything was/is okay. Blacks have had an inlet, but no real outlet for their pain and suffering. If there is no outlet, there will be an eventual implosion or explosion. The minute Blacks march and protest, they are considered rioters and looters. Although I don’t agree with the destruction of property, I would prefer to have property destroyed rather than the continuous and consistent destruction of our Black boys, Black girls, Black men, and Black women. Property can be replaced; Black lives can’t be replaced. Marching and protesting are for the lives taken away from so many of our Black sisters and brothers, as well as a way of being heard, out of the silence forced upon them.

Racism is a mindset of irrational beliefs that fuels various emotions, such as fear and hatred. The belief of superiority has been the operating system of white America. The fear of those white Americans believing that they are superior, and those of a different race are inferior, leads to their belief that as long as they can keep a knee on our necks or their feet on our backs, they have and can hold us back. 

The challenges faced by Blacks have been so long standing and too many Blacks are suffering from just trying to breathe in a society, which does not recognize or respect them, because white America continues to hold their knees on our necks and our backs. Also, too many of our young Black brothers and sisters have grown up in a society that perpetuates a false sense of equality and equity, where many are not aware of their history. Unlike many other groups of people in America, the educational system has stripped Black children of their history and replaced it with distorted tales from a White majority perspective, in order to control the narrative. Any race of people without knowledge of its past will have difficulty navigating their present and moving forward into their future. Such is the ‘pipeline to prison’ in the American school system that strips Black girls and Black boys of their self-esteem by third grade, sending them on a winding and confusing path of economic deprivation, inferior education, or no education at all. Remember, compulsory education was never meant for Blacks in the first place. The field of education has been one of the greatest breeding grounds for discrimination and racism. 

 The American establishment would have us to believe that Blacks have ‘arrived’ by allowing them to accumulate some material pleasantries that they struggle to maintain over long periods of time, endowing them with the slavery of high interest rates and excessive debt.  Where have Blacks arrived and when did they arrive? There is no economic freedom for Black and Brown people in America, when there is controlled measure that discriminates against them in determining their worthiness as consumer, based on the color of their skin. This FICO score keeps widening at the top and bottom, making the American dream for Blacks in America elusive.  But no matter how much wealth Blacks accumulate, material wealth will never replace the acceptance, respect, recognition, honor, fair, equal, and equitable treatment they deserve as human beings who are whole men and women, instead of three-fifths of a human being as was interpreted in the American Constitution of 1787 (Article 1, Section 2). 

It is past time for justice to prevail in America. Martin Luther King, Jr. spoke about justice rolling down like mighty waters. However, injustice seems to roll much faster than justice. It is essential that every living human being, especially Black and Brown Americans use their power of the vote at the polls on June 9, 2020, as well as in November 2020. Too many Blacks have lost their lives for our freedom to vote and the majority American establishment is trying to take that right away.

Yes it has been and still is challenging to be Black in America. However, we have the right, the fight, and the sight to change the narrative that has been scripted for us. We must stand up, speak up, and speak out. But we must also develop a comprehensive plan of action that includes all willing, committed, genuine, and dedicated people in America. As Blacks in America, we must not only tell our stories, we must write our stories from beginning to end.

As long as there is hatred and racism in America, there will be challenges for Blacks in America, but God ahs the final say!!! 
We must make our marches the footsteps for mobilizing specific and strategic actions to once and for all put Black and Brown lives at the top of the VIP list.  We must engage those who will not participate in cover-ups against Black and Brown people, no matter who they are, allowing for true change to take place in America, in order to preserve the lives of Black children, Black men, and Black women.

As Blacks in America, we must decide our own directions and gain information to not only have candid conversations with our Black and Brown children in navigating the racial, economic, and social disparities in America, but also fighting to end racism and discrimination. It is imperative that our children learn and understand their history and apply it to their present day realities. We must also develop approaches for moving forward in confronting racism on macro and micro levels, especially when dealing with law enforcement officials. We must also help you and your children to understand how to survive in a nation that believes the only way to see them is to keep them invisible, not hear them, and keep the knees of law enforcement and vigilantes on their necks, their knees and feet on their backs, as they are deprived of a quality and equal education. You must believe yourself that BLACK LIVES DO MATTER, because YOU MATTER!   It’s important to start loving, to maintain your faith, maintain your hope, and to keep marching until ALL of us have arrived, without hatred, without injustice, and without racism. And you MUST VOTE, VOTE, VOTE! You must VOTE because your life does depend on it!!! That’s what needs to happen to truly understand  “What’s Going On!” 
              


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Saturday, May 2, 2020

Mothers are the Glue to Holding Life Together

No matter what happens in life, you must always go back to the beginning of your life. Everyone’s beginning started with a mother and a father. And even if fathers helped to create you, many of you grew up without your father in your life. However, most mothers stayed the course.

Mothers experience what is sometimes considered the pleasure or the pain of carrying their children for nine months or less. And then they bear the pains of labor. Many mothers experience the carrying, the labor, and the birth of their children alone. But no matter the situation, no matter the circumstances, and no matter the struggles, these bold and beautiful women hold their families together, and they do their best to bond with their children, even alone. They do their level best to try to hold their families together and keep their children. They are usually the glue that holds the family together, as well as the glue to mend and hold the lives of their children and others together.

Were they all successful in holding their families together? No, they weren’t. But when you tally up the numbers, the successes outweigh the losses. If it weren’t for mothers, where would many of you be? Through your tears and laughter, your happiness and sadness, your failures and successes, your darkness and your sunlight, your losses and your gains, your let downs and your pickups, when you take a realistic look at the outcomes, your mother or the woman designated to serve in her role was and probably still is there for you. And through it all, no matter what you have done; through all of your faults and failures, she has never left you. Unlike Humpty Dumpty, your mother always found the strength and the glue to help piece your life back together again!  

Along with holding the family and various lives together in the midst of pain and struggles, mothers and grandmothers who were responsible for the rearing of their grandchildren seem to always have the right words to say and the answers to all of your questions. They seem to have un-measurable strength for which they are many times not recognized or respected.  
“Mothers and grandmothers have always had a way of saying some of the most unbelievable and outrageous things!You’ve probably sometimes wondered, “what does that mean?” or “who is she talking about?”* 

“Whatever your background or geographic location, your Mama, Grandma, or Big Mama have always had a message in whatever they said, no matter how far-fetched their sayings may have seemed. But there was a method to their madness. Their messagesevolved, helping you to move forward in your life,embracing the future. And if themessage was not as clear at the time, clarity inevitablyevolvedover time, molding you into the man or woman you are today.”*

“If your Mama was anything like mine, she sometimes spoke in riddles and parables, forcing us to listen and think. In actuality, through our exposure to the many things our mothers said, we were afforded some of the best teachers in life and for life. These teachers were our mothers. Much of what they had to say was based on their efforts to provide love, guidance, and direction. These sayings were given to us with the belief that we would one day gain awareness, insight, understanding, and positive life lessons.”*

Mother’s Day is right around the corner. However, it will be a Mother’s Day like no other. Many of you will not be able to celebrate your mother in person, in an effort to ensure that she continues to live. And others of you, as a result of the impact of the COVID-19 coronavirus or other situations, have lost your mother or the person who took on the role of mother in your life. Yes, it will be a difficult Mother’s Day! However, even if your mother is physically out of reach as a result of the pandemic or she has transitioned from this life, you are still blessed. You still have the love, the memories, the hope and the faith, which you received from your mother. These attributes now serve as the base and the basis for who you are in this space of time, and they are examples of the glue that holds you together in helping you to overcome your current life situations.

Here is your opportunity as Shirley Caesar once sang, to “Remember Mama in a Special Way.” Make a list of ten (10) attributes and 10 things you appreciate about your mother and present them to her on Mother’s Day. And if your mother has transitioned, take your lists and either put them in the Bible for her to see or visit her resting place and orally share the list with her. She will hear you no matter where she is. Remember, “Mothers are the Glue to Holding Life Together.” She has helped and continues to help you to hold your life together, no matter her location!

Happy Mother’s Day!

To Mama**

Who works her fingers to the bone;
Often struggling through life alone.
Her late night tears and late night touch
Have healed and helped us, oh so much!
There is none to compare
To this gift from God, so great, so fair;
The love and understanding from my dear mother.
I roamed the earth both near and far;
And I’ve never been able to find another.
Mama I love you wherever you are;
In my eyes, you’re always a star.
Although for some time now we’ve been apart,
I cherish your memory deep in my heart.
It wasn’t by chance that our paths merged as one;
Our time together was essential to God’s will being done.
A tie which bound us together through thick and thin,
Has transcended through time from beginning to end.

*©2016; Dr. Joyce Morley; “Mama Said…Hilarious, Outrageous, and Eye-Opening Statements, Mama, Grandma, and Big Mama Said that You Can Now Laugh About: Mama Really Did Have the Answers After All”

**©1999; Joyce Morley, Ed.D., “Weary But Not Worn: A Spiritual Reawakening” 

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Saturday, April 4, 2020

This Too Shall Pass: Surviving COVID-19-Coronavirus

I offer my condolences and prayers to the families that have lost loved ones as a result of the COVID-19 coronavirus. I also offer my prayers and hope for those brave medical heroes and sheroes who battle the disease on a daily basis, while putting their own lives on the line. Hold on, keep the faith, and continue to fight!

Exodus 3:7-8 “…I have surely seen the affliction of my people…and have heard their cry…for I know their sorrows;” And I am come down to deliver them out…”

Psalm 91:10-11 “…neither shall any plague come nigh thy dwelling. For he shall give his angels charge over thee to keep thee in all thy ways.”


We are facing challenging times of change and uncertainty. However, in the midst of the change, the uncertainty, the pain, the confusion, and the disappointment, it is essential that you seek truth. When I awoke one morning a couple of weeks ago, I, like many other Americans who decided to follow the CDC directive to self-quarantine for two weeks and engage in social distancing, noticed for hours that I had not heard airplanes flying overhead. The eerie feeling and the seemingly strange silence I experienced that day, along with the emptiness and extreme calmness that loomed over the city as I traveled to the supermarket the next day, to ensure that I had the household necessities for an unpredictable stay at home, were quite palpable. However, in the midst of my experiences, as well as the reality of what was and what is happening to families in America and around the world, related to the devastatingly increased number of persons testing positive with the COVID-19 coronavirus, as well as the increased number of those whom have died from the virus, I still see a light at the end of the tunnel! I still see the glass as half full, instead of half empty! I still see hope in the midst of the darkness! If I looked at this uncontrollable, unpredictable, and disrespectful virus any other way, I would be contributing to its victory. However, I WILL NOT speak to or contribute to its longevity! It shall and it WILL pass, and we will survive it! As a matter of fact, we will come out better as individuals, families, as a country, and as a world!! I believe that’s what God wants and expects! 

The reality is that in America, we have been socially distant for some time. Based on our memberships in certain groups, our class status, our race, our creed, and our gender, we distance ourselves from people unlike us.  And in another vein, families, friends, and coworkers practice social distancing on a daily basis. How many families sit at the breakfast or dinner table together? And if they sit together at all, how many family members talk with each other, join in the same room with each other, and engage with each other without being on their technical devices?

Further, friends, coworkers, and family members often attend social gatherings with several different people, but each is holding his/her own independent and separate mobile phone, while engaging in separate verbal or text conversations.Too many of you live in homes where you are in one room, while your mate, your children, and other family members remain in separate rooms on separate floors within your home, with little or no communication. Too many of you find it easy to not speak to your neighbors, to block your colleagues from moving upward into new positions. And there are too many of you, who tend to ignore your children, belittle, begrudge, and avoid people who don’t look like you, and sometimes work tirelessly to shutdown those whose opinions are different from yours. You distance yourself socially, emotionally, and otherwise from people who don’t have what you have. Sadly, many of you have been experts in the area of social distancing throughout your life. The question is, how close are you willing to move towards others after this storm passes? And believe me, it will pass!

There has been a grave technology divide in this country, which must be taken seriously after this pandemic. Many of you weren’t talking directly with each other, weren’t touching each other, and you spewed more hate than love toward others, even before the directive to engage in social distancing was given. Why does social distancing seem to be so hard for you now? It’s because you are not controlling the directive.

It is imperative that you and others do not minimize the impact and the effects of the COVID-19 coronavirus. It is imperative that you follow the directives of the Centers for Disease Control (CDC) and not that of the politicians using this pandemic to tie up the airwaves in order to campaign for the next presidential election. The COVID-19 coronavirus is real! The stock market fell, death of loved ones increased, many of you continue to suffer physically and emotionally, and many of you have lost your jobs. Out of necessity, many of you are physically separated from your parents, grandparents, and other loved ones. However, in the midst of this pandemic, there are many people who are surviving the virus! You must believe that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. You must not lose your faith or your hope! You must see the glass as half full, instead of half empty! You are NOT alone! Fear and worry will not fix your situation or the situations faced by your family, friends, neighbors, and colleagues. Love, proper care, and attention, even at a distance will go a long way. You must continue to believe that there is a light at the end of this tunnel of darkness!

Your health is your wealth, not the stoked fears about the economy, as espoused by the guy in the white house! If the white house and state governors do not focus on the health and lives of he people of this country, the economy won’t matter. It’s all about you, your family, your friends, and others; I’s al about the people of America. But in the midst of it all, you must remember that, ‘this too shall pass!’ 

Now is not the time for you to become emotionally, psychologically, or spiritually bankrupt, or to allow yourself to relapse into past addictive behaviors. And although you have lost your job and you are not accustomed to spending as much time with your mate, your children, and other family members, now is not the time for you to allow your lack of patience, your lack of control, and your anger to get the best of you, by engaging in domestic violence or abuse of your mate and your children.* Now is not the time for you to take flight; it is time for you to stand up and fight against the dangers of this pandemic and not against your loved ones. Now is not the time for you to give up!

In order to ensure that all of us will soon move beyond the COVID-19 coronavirus, I need you to take a stand with me to keep fighting for life and to declare and decree a victory over the COVID-19 coronavirus. The first order in this process is to follow the truth and the facts being put forth by the CDC and the medical professionals, and not the guy in the white house. And even if your state and the guy in the white house are not directing you to engage in social distancing and wear facial masks when you are in the public, I beseech you to do both. And although you miss attending church, as Pastor Rick Warren stated, don’t be a fool! We don’t need a replay of the Jim Jones massacre that took place in Jamestown, Guyana, in 1978.  

To help to ensure that you and your family members, friends, and loved ones not only have a greater chance of surviving the COVID-19 coronavirus, but to also ensure that you keep the faith and remain hopeful, believing, ‘this too shall pass,’ I have provided helpful and practical activities below, for you all to utilize. 

Practical Activities for Dealing with the COVID-19 Coronavirus Pandemic

      I.        Engage in Conversations & Discussions with your family, children, and friends that:
·     Are rich, bold, candid, courageous, open, honest, factual, responsible & age appropriate
·     Stay in the NOW & in the KNOW--Research & share what’s going on locally, nationally & internationally
·     Watch age-appropriate newscasts that report the facts & not self-serving political jargon
·     Define COVID-19, Coronavirus, its implications, impacts (socially, economically, emotionally, and psychologically), as well as your obligations
·     Disclose & explore conjectures, theories, assumptions, & untruths…dispel those that don’t fit
·     About Life & living
·     About death & dying
·     Personal & family needs, resources & options
·     Humanity—US & WE—THE ELDERLY-What can YOU do to help from afar?
·     About hope, faith, patience, believing & NOT GIVING IN OR GIVING UP!

    II.        Discuss and Deal with Emotional & Psychological Implications
·     FEAR is NOT an Option
·     Discuss & reach out to mental health professionals on how to deal with stress, anxiety, fear, depression, loss, lack of control, lack of predictability, confusion, anger, insomnia, neurosis, suicidal ideations, & the after PTSD that will be rampart after the COVID-19 coronavirus
·     Share feelings, concerns & fears with family members & other friends by telephone, Skype, Zoom, etc.; not just posting on Facebook or Instagram…they’re seeking help also!
·     Deal with your faith—Watch online religious services; read daily scriptures with family, friends, coworkers, using technology if necessary 
·     Instill hope & holding on-Spirituality
·     Engage in daily relaxation techniques
·     Engage in deep breathing exercises
·     Engage in daily journaling
·     Practice yoga-online classes
·     Practice daily meditating-Spend time with yourself
·     Engage in daily oral positive affirmations—A Positive Word/Phrase A-Day; post them on refrigerator & bathroom mirror
·     Engage in cognitive restructuring—Work on ridding yourself of negative thoughts-Glass half full instead of glass half empty
·     Seek & engage in telemental health or teletherapy—Telephone, Skype, Zoom, etc. psychotherapy (www.doctorjoyce.com; 770-808-6570; joyce@doctorjoyce.com; National Mental Health Hotline—1-800-950-6264**

  III.        Activities for Families in Quarantine-Social Distancing
·     SEE #I-Conversations & Discussions
·     Entertain & answer questions; Search for answers together
·     Assure Safety & Protection; especially with children
·     Have a thirty-day (30) family plan (daily, weekly), including a safety plan, activities & meals)
·     Develop a daily schedule as if everyone is going to school or work—TIME TO ARISE & TIME TO GO TO BED; SHOWER & GET DRESSED
·     Develop & follow an academic Schedule & activities; VISIT SCHOOL DISTRICT WEBSITE FOR ONLINE ACTIVITIES & ACADEMICS
·     Develop as much normalcy as possible during an abnormal time
·     Prepare children for each school day at home
·     Decipher individual & family needs
·     Define & respect individual space within the home 
·     Find & take time to pend with & discover or rediscover self & families
·     Find & take time to evaluate/reevaluate internal & external relationships
·     FaceTime, Skype, Zoom with Family Members & Friends—ESPECIALLY ELDERLY GRANDPARENS & OTHERS
·     Engage in storytelling
·     Attend religious services together, online, as a family
·     Practice spirituality—Develop & practice daily oral affirmations
·     SEE #II—EMOTIONAL & PSYCHOLOGICAL IMPLICATIONS
·     Hold read-a-thons
·     Hold spelling bees
·     Balance work & play—Family exercise time; play out side in the yard
·     Play & discuss music--Compare past & present types & forms of music
·     Hold movie nights
·     Play board games
·     Engage in daily exercise & walks around the yard or the neighborhood; basketball, kick ball…PRACTICING SOCIAL DISTANCING if walking in the neighborhood
·     Everyone engage in journaling time before bed
·     Take a day to engage in individual & family goal-setting
·     Take naps
·     Talk about the economy
·     Engage in WEEKLY cleaning parties
·     Hold regular family updates—Friends, hopes, dreams, aspirations, Everyone answer these questions:
1.     This what I think…
2.     This is what & how I feel…
3.     This is what I am grateful for…
4.     These are my concerns…
5.     This is what makes me happy
6.    These are my dreams & hopes for after the pandemic

  IV.        The Importance of Thinking & Speaking Positively
·     Discuss glass half full, not half empty concept
·     Practice being thankful
·     Practice being grateful ---NOT ENTITLED
·     Practice humility
·     Practice being appreciative
·     Practice patience
·     Practice & exhibit love, respect, caring, sharing, responsibility, showing humanity

    V.        Thinking & Looking Beyond the Virus
·     What Five (5) Positive Things Can I & Will I Do Differently as an Individual?
·     What Five (5) Things Will We Do Differently as a Family?
·     What are Three (3) Things I am Willing to Do to Positively Impact My Community?
·     What Are Three (3) New Things I Learned About Me?
·     What Are Three (3) New Things I Learned About My Family?

  VI.        RECOGNIZING & VALUING Modern Day Heroes & Sheroes
·     Persons on the Front Line (Doctors, nurses, mental health professionals, PA, police officers, fire fighters, mayors, governors, pilots, flight attendants, journalists, educators, truck drivers, service personnel, etc.) 
·     Children & parents, the clergy, superintendents, teachers, principals, counselors, psychologists, other school administrators, secretaries, administrative assistants, bus drivers, cafeteria workers, librarians, maintenance workers, SRO’s, neighbors, etc.

VII.        Deciding What’s Next?
In the midst of trouble and crises, we begin to see all that we should do or what we can do. However, the question is, what are you willing to do after the trouble is over and the crisis has passed? 

The light DOES and WILL once again shine brightly at the end of the tunnel, after the COVID-19 coronavirus! Get ready to see it, to behold it, and to walk in it, remembering that, ‘This is not the time for you to quit!!!’ “This Too Shall Pass!”

*National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-7233)
**National Mental Health Hotline  (1-800950-6264)


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